Monday, June 30, 2008

The boy crisis

I'm going to be direct in this here post.

To all the people who dismiss the boy crisis in education as trivial, or refer to it as nothing but hype (as these authors do), I say: shame on you! Either that, or "If that's the case, then what would you call a 'girl crisis'?"

Any rebuttal to the boy crisis is a slap in the face to boys who are:

- less likely to have higher GPAs
- less likely to graduate from high school or college
- more likely to be diagnosed with ADD
- more likely to commit suicide
(all from http://www.trueequality.com/booklet/)

I should know, because I was actually diagnosed with a learning disorder back in elementary school. But that's beside the point.

Wednesday, June 4, 2008

"Be a man"

There is another phrase that I dislike, and it ranks right up there with the phrase "women and children" (please see my previous post below). It is actually, not one phrase, but a whole set of them, but what each phrase has in common is the equal damage they inflict. They are phrases like "be a man," "man up," "take it like a man," and "man enough." I'm sure there are more, but one thing's for sure: if women and men have anything in common, it is that both are equally culpable of using this set of damaging phrases.

Why is it that I not only dislike these phrases, but also, hate them with a passion? It is because that the person who uses any one of them wants you to be a stereotype. And since I vehemently abhor stereotypes in general, then guess what? I despise all of these phrases as well.

And yes, you read that correctly. To say that stereotypes are the anti-anti-drug is an understatement. I hate all of them; not just the misandric and misogynist ones, but also the racist and ageist ones, and then some. You could probably say that I hate any and all stereotypes, and this isn't far from the truth. What is the truth is that I want to take all these stereotypes and smash them into a million pieces. And oh yeah, spit on the pieces -- I almost forgot.

But don't look at all this as just a matter of me not liking a certain set of phrases (to the extent described previously). Our global society is chock full of both misandry and misogyny, but what I don't appreciate at all is that only one of the two is politically incorrect. Don't believe me? Well, try imagining any radio personality (Don Imus is the textbook example) using the phrase "be a man," or any variant thereof, and observe the lack of societal outcry. As opposed to... yeah, that episode.

Four words: see what I mean?